Amy Morin tells us that reaching our greatest potential doesn’t require us to work harder by adding desirable habits to our already busy life. Instead we can work smarter by eliminating the routines that erode effectiveness and siphon off mental strength. Here are 13 things mentally strong people don’t do:
1. Waste time feeling sorry for themselves.
It’s futile to wallow in your problems, exaggerate your misfortune and keep score of how many hardships you’ve endured. Self-pity keeps you focused on the problem and prevents you from developing a solution.
2. Give away their power.
You can’t feel like a victim and be mentally strong; that’s impossible Changing your daily vocabulary is one way to recognize that the choices you make are yours. Empowering yourself is an essential component to creating the kind of life you want.
3. Shy away from change.
If you worry that change will make things worse, you’ll stay stuck in your old ways. The world is changing, and your success depends on your ability to adapt.
4. Squander energy on things they can’t control.
Complaining, worrying and wishful thinking don’t solve problems; they only waste your energy. Accept situations that are beyond your control and focus on influencing, rather than controlling, people around you.
5. Worry about pleasing everyone.
Trying to make other people happy drains your mental strength and causes you to lose sight of your goals.
6. Fear taking risks.
You can’t become extraordinary without taking chances, but a successful outcome depends on your ability to take the right risks.
7. Dwell on the past.
While learning from the past helps you build mental strength, ruminating is harmful. Constantly questioning your past choices or romanticising about the good old days keeps you from both enjoying the present and making the future as good as it can be.
8. Repeat their mistakes.
Set aside your pride and humbly evaluate why you goofed up. Use that knowledge to move forward better than before.
9. Resent other people’s successes.
Jealousy shifts the focus from your efforts and interferes with your ability to reach your goals.
10. Give up after their first failure.
Not trying at all or giving up after your first attempt will prevent you from reaching your potential. Face your fear of defeat head-on by stretching yourself to your limits.
11. Fear “alone time.”
Alone time is an essential component to building mental strength. Use the time to reflect on your progress and create goals for the future.
12. Feel the world owes them something.
Waiting for the world to give you what you think you’re owed isn’t a productive life strategy. Regardless of whether you think you’ve been dealt a fair hand in life, you have gifts to share with others.
13. Expect immediate results.
Self-growth develops slowly. Mental strength will give you the resilience to push through the challenges.